What is Infidelity?

Infidelity is the act of engaging and investing in emotional and/or sexual activities with another person(s) outside of your committed relationship without the knowledge of your partner.  What counts as infidelity is a debate that most couples have. Acts of infidelity and betrayal can be identified by the following:

  • The behavior has impacted the trust in a relationship.
  • The behavior was done in secret.

Surviving Infidelity

Learning that your partner has been cheating on you can bring on a wave of emotions. Whether you have known of multiple affairs or are just finding out, the impact can be traumatizing. It’s quite common to feel powerless, unwanted and uncertain about your future while at the same time cycling between love and hate for your partner.

What are the next steps?

Should I stay with them or should I leave? This question should not be taken lightly. Unpacking what the best step would be for you individually and as a family should take into account what your primary need is at that time. Do Not feel pressured to make a decision immediately. Too often misguided advice is provided from those who may have good intentions. Every couple has a different situation so what worked for one couple may not work for the next. It’s important to understand your story and your specific goals. The foundation of your relationship was built over time, therefore repairing it (if you chose) will require some time as well.  

Affair Recovery as a couple: Rebuilding your relationship will take into account the damage done by the betrayal in addition to previous pains that may have existed in the relationship. This could include poor communication habits, conflict management, unresolved issues and life transitions in the relationship (parenting, grief etc.). To adequately address your history as a couple an in depth assessment will be done where you will be given detailed feedback on what your recovery journey would look like for your situation.